Comments on: Real Political Reform Requires Adding a Neutral to the Mix http://eyeonconflict.com/2010/03/04/real-political-reform-requires-adding-a-neutral-to-the-mix/ Views From the World of Mediation Wed, 08 Sep 2010 03:39:27 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: EDWARD http://eyeonconflict.com/2010/03/04/real-political-reform-requires-adding-a-neutral-to-the-mix/comment-page-1/#comment-337 EDWARD Tue, 07 Sep 2010 18:42:52 +0000 http://leejaybermanonmediation.com/?p=24#comment-337 <strong><blockquote><a href="http://cheaptabletsonline.com/" rel="nofollow">CheapTabletsOnline.com. Canadian Health&Care.Special Internet Prices.No prescription online pharmacy.Best quality drugs. High quality drugs. Order pills online</a>...</strong> Buy:Seroquel.Female Cialis.Aricept.Zocor.Zetia.Amoxicillin.Advair.Benicar.Acomplia.Ventolin.Cozaar.Lasix.SleepWell.Female Pink Viagra.Lipothin.Prozac.Buspar.Lipitor.Nymphomax.Wellbutrin SR....
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]]> By: Michael Pollack http://eyeonconflict.com/2010/03/04/real-political-reform-requires-adding-a-neutral-to-the-mix/comment-page-1/#comment-114 Michael Pollack Fri, 12 Mar 2010 21:13:45 +0000 http://leejaybermanonmediation.com/?p=24#comment-114 Nothing helps to settle a case like a jury in the box. Do you think the November mid-term elections are equivalent to that? Unlike a trial, the elections will happen regardless of whether the parties reach an agreement on any legislation. Nothing helps to settle a case like a jury in the box. Do you think the November mid-term elections are equivalent to that? Unlike a trial, the elections will happen regardless of whether the parties reach an agreement on any legislation.

]]> By: Lee Jay Berman http://eyeonconflict.com/2010/03/04/real-political-reform-requires-adding-a-neutral-to-the-mix/comment-page-1/#comment-99 Lee Jay Berman Tue, 09 Mar 2010 07:29:04 +0000 http://leejaybermanonmediation.com/?p=24#comment-99 What do you do with children? It's not that different. When they are willing to stop taking extreme positions with the introduction of a neutral person (parent, teacher, much older sibling), then the neutral's job is to teach, train, and coach. If they keep taking extreme positions to the neutral, or in the neutral's presence, then the neutral must become a referee and insert themselves more directively. If congress is bluffing with their extremist rhetoric, we'll know once a neutral is introduced because they will become more pliable. If the rhetoric continues, then the neutral will need to be inserted more forcibly, by directive, and probably for a longer period of time until their behavior changes. It might take 40 years in the desert - with a true neutral - to unlearn their current behavior. What do you do with children? It’s not that different. When they are willing to stop taking extreme positions with the introduction of a neutral person (parent, teacher, much older sibling), then the neutral’s job is to teach, train, and coach. If they keep taking extreme positions to the neutral, or in the neutral’s presence, then the neutral must become a referee and insert themselves more directively. If congress is bluffing with their extremist rhetoric, we’ll know once a neutral is introduced because they will become more pliable. If the rhetoric continues, then the neutral will need to be inserted more forcibly, by directive, and probably for a longer period of time until their behavior changes. It might take 40 years in the desert – with a true neutral – to unlearn their current behavior.

]]> By: Debra Healy http://eyeonconflict.com/2010/03/04/real-political-reform-requires-adding-a-neutral-to-the-mix/comment-page-1/#comment-98 Debra Healy Mon, 08 Mar 2010 23:14:11 +0000 http://leejaybermanonmediation.com/?p=24#comment-98 Hi, Jay - Your article expresses exactly what I was thinking as I watched and listened to the healthcare summit - there was simply no way, no matter how much President Obama wished (or tried) to be impartial - or, even "all-partial," that he could come across that way. In the first place, as you point out - he is one side's leader! I sensed the President struggling to restrain his reactions and responses to the comments of the various Republicans who spoke. What a difficult thing to do with any credibility when you are the champion for one side of any set of differences that have been perceived as mutually exclusive. The summit provided an invaluable lesson in the impact of reactive devaluation. What would it take for our government to begin using neutrals to facilitate discussions in Congress? It seems so clear that the adversarial, two-party battles taking place every day are not in the best interest of our country. Are we so jaded to believe nothing else could possibly work better? It always comes down to fear - the fear of not having power, of not having needs met, of not being enough of something to go around. And so, we fight like children in a school yard, never getting anywhere. We need to get past all of this. Thank you. Debra Healy agree2agree Healy Conflict Management Services Hi, Jay -

Your article expresses exactly what I was thinking as I watched and listened to the healthcare summit – there was simply no way, no matter how much President Obama wished (or tried) to be impartial – or, even “all-partial,” that he could come across that way.

In the first place, as you point out – he is one side’s leader! I sensed the President struggling to restrain his reactions and responses to the comments of the various Republicans who spoke. What a difficult thing to do with any credibility when you are the champion for one side of any set of differences that have been perceived as mutually exclusive. The summit provided an invaluable lesson in the impact of reactive devaluation.

What would it take for our government to begin using neutrals to facilitate discussions in Congress? It seems so clear that the adversarial, two-party battles taking place every day are not in the best interest of our country. Are we so jaded to believe nothing else could possibly work better?

It always comes down to fear – the fear of not having power, of not having needs met, of not being enough of something to go around. And so, we fight like children in a school yard, never getting anywhere.

We need to get past all of this.

Thank you.
Debra Healy
agree2agree
Healy Conflict Management Services

]]> By: Lee Jay Berman http://eyeonconflict.com/2010/03/04/real-political-reform-requires-adding-a-neutral-to-the-mix/comment-page-1/#comment-95 Lee Jay Berman Sat, 06 Mar 2010 07:31:32 +0000 http://leejaybermanonmediation.com/?p=24#comment-95 . <strong><em>From reader Michael Daniel Williamson:</em></strong> #1, the 80 year old me will not be drinking tea. The system is designed to come to a standstill when this occurs to prevent any one side steamrolling the other. Regardless of your loyalties this will ultimately be to our benefit. I hope. You do write well, however. A breath of fresh air. .
From reader Michael Daniel Williamson:

#1, the 80 year old me will not be drinking tea. The system is designed to come to a standstill when this occurs to prevent any one side steamrolling the other. Regardless of your loyalties this will ultimately be to our benefit. I hope. You do write well, however. A breath of fresh air.

]]> By: Lee Jay Berman http://eyeonconflict.com/2010/03/04/real-political-reform-requires-adding-a-neutral-to-the-mix/comment-page-1/#comment-90 Lee Jay Berman Fri, 05 Mar 2010 17:52:09 +0000 http://leejaybermanonmediation.com/?p=24#comment-90 . <strong><em>From reader Linda Bulmash:</em></strong> Maybe that should be part of their oath of office. .
From reader Linda Bulmash:

Maybe that should be part of their oath of office.

]]> By: Lee Jay Berman http://eyeonconflict.com/2010/03/04/real-political-reform-requires-adding-a-neutral-to-the-mix/comment-page-1/#comment-89 Lee Jay Berman Fri, 05 Mar 2010 17:49:46 +0000 http://leejaybermanonmediation.com/?p=24#comment-89 . <strong><em>From reader Floyd Siegal:</em></strong> Nicely done, again. How cool would it be for the government to actually hire a neutral to help the parties work together?? What a great concept. Two blog updates in less than a week -- very impressive! Careful though . . . you might be setting expectations you won't be able to meet!! .
From reader Floyd Siegal:

Nicely done, again. How cool would it be for the government to actually hire a neutral to help the parties work together?? What a great concept.

Two blog updates in less than a week — very impressive! Careful though . . . you might be setting expectations you won’t be able to meet!!

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